Everyone learns to walk. It's one of the first things we learn on our own without instruction manuals or lessons, and it's a prime illustration of successful self-learning.

The lesson begins when a child sees her parents walking. Baby Jody wants to be just like the grown-ups, to go where they go, as quickly as they go, instead of crawling slowly on the floor. After some experimentation with her leg muscles, Jody tries to stand up by herself, but falls down. With a little persistence, she's able to stand upright all by herself. Then she tries to take a step as she's seen her parents do many times. She falls down on the second step, but Jody's desire to walk persists. Up again, down again, she learns how to balance and move her legs. She has a few hard falls and cries a bit, but doesn't give up. When she finally can take a few steps unaided, Jody is rewarded with her family's approval.

When Jody becomes an adult, small failures are more difficult for her to overcome. "I've failed. I'll never try anything again because I can't stand the thought of being humiliated in front of my family and friends." That may be her reaction to failure now, but she probably had no such fear when she was learning to walk.

Such a spectacular "failure" is really just a result of experimentation. To attain success as a child, you modify your approach, try something different, and complete four or five steps before falling down again. If you refuse to believe that what you're attempting to do is "impossible," you won't associate falling down with failure. You may fall a few hundred times before you get it right, but you'll keep getting up and trying again until you produce the results you want. Since you're a child it never occurs to you to quit.

...excerpt from The Ultimate Lesson

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The Ultimate Lesson
10 Point Guide on How to Teach Yourself ANYTHING
By Art Niemann

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